So I was watching Fatal Attraction today, mostly because I was curious since I had never seen the movie and when I realized it had Glenn Close in it I said I had to. She's a great villain, neurotic or otherwise. So I started to watch and come half of it I didn't know if I liked it at all. I mean, believe me I get Fatal Attractions, every woman does I believe, and I get that it's Michael Douglas, cause come on he's hot... or he was. The point is that all I wanted to do was smack the woman. There's crazy people out there to be sure, but damn! Get some pride! So you had an affair with a married man and now he wants nothing to do with you... that's kinda the rule for affairs! It's an affair not a commitment! You had a weekend of screwing each others brains out and now well you say goodbye and move on. Seriously! I've been there, not too proud to admit, but I have. You don't cry, or try to kill yourself and/or least of all go psycho! And the woman got very psycho!!!! I got to give it to her: she was smart as fuck, but nonetheless psycho. I have a friend that would fall in love... seriously he only dates psychos. I think is an actual requirement for him, lol.
Anyways, the point is... Women need to have more pride, one. Men shouldn't have affairs if they actually love their wives, two. And most important there's a lot of psychos out there with the faces of innocent angels. This world is a very fucked up place and there's nothing we can do about it, truth be told. Yes, we can try and be more humane, better persons, protect the environment but in the end there's still going to be a lot of fucked up people in this world.
Just yesterday there were two cases on tv that surprised everyone. One was the case of a guy that after 17 years or so found his mother. And you would say, awww how cute, yes, but the really fucked up part is he was having sex with her! His wife found out and wanted him to admit it, and of course, to get a divorce. According to the psychologist is a syndrome that happens with family members that because they didn't lived together for many years don't develop a sense of... familiarity lets say. Meaning that if you never lived with your mother or haven't seen her in 15 years and happened to one day see her crossing the street you might think of her sexually as a woman, not your mother. There's also something called genetic attraction which means that you feel empathy with a person that shares your DNA and sometimes if the above mention happens it only helps to make stronger the attraction.
I get the whole rational explanation, and I would totally understand if for example you were adopted and had an affair with an older woman that turned out to be your mother... ok, it would be gross but you had no idea. But knowingly sleep with your mother, father, brother is something I don't get. I do believe that it's ironic that religion is death set against incest. If the myth of Adam and Eve is true for one thing it means that there has to have incest for them to populate the earth... Adam would have had to sleep with his daughters; brothers and sisters wouldn't really get much of an option (just like poor Eve), etc... So we are supposed to believe they just magically populate the whole world!? Don't be absurd! And he have to remember that in the older ages that wasn't something to be frown upon. Pharaohs married their sisters, and the Greek were famous for any kind of sexual perversion, just watch Caligula one of this days.
The second piece of news was even more disturbing. They had just arrested a couple for sexually molesting their six kids since the age of 4. That is even worst! And it reminded me of the famous case of serial killers Fred and Rose West.
Between 1967 and 1987, he and his wife tortured, raped and murdered at least 12 young women and girls, many at the couple's homes. The majority of the murders occurred between May 1973 and September 1979 at their home in Gloucester. Rosemary West also murdered Fred's stepdaughter (his first wife's biological daughter) Charmaine, while he was serving a prison sentence for theft. He had a daughter, Anne Marie, with his first wife and two daughters Heather and Mae with his second wife, Rosemary, which I believed to be a very ironic name for all this, after having seen Rosemary's baby and how about 12 years after the incidents it's believed that they used to worshiped the devil. Anyhow Rosemary came from a family where incest has common; Rosemary's father, Bill Letts, with Fred's approval, would often visit their home to have sex with Rosemary.
In October 1972 the Wests hired 17-year-old Caroline Roberts as the children's nanny. She rejected Fred and Rosemary's advances into their "sex-circle" and left a few weeks later, so on 6 December 1972 the Wests invited her to their home, where they both raped her. Fred allowed Roberts to leave the next day only after she promised she would return as their nanny. Roberts reported the rape to police but withdrew the accusation when the case came to court. The Wests pleaded guilty to a reduced charge of indecent assault and were fined £50.
In early 1973, the Wests took eight-year-old Anne Marie to the cellar, where they bound and gagged her before West raped her while Rosemary watched. In 1979 Anne Marie became pregnant by West, but the pregnancy was terminated as it was ectopic. Unable to cope with her father any longer, she left home; West now began abusing Heather, who disappeared a few years later.
And this is just the beginning of the story...* They had so many victims, so many people that suffered and died by their hands. I've always found the levels of society's depravity quite interesting. It's sad, yes, but what could have possible move this people to do what they do...? I mean, why? That's the nagging question...
But this is not the only case like this as we all know. There has been hundred and not all sexual abuses are as escalated as the Wests case. Mothers that teach their kids about sexuality using her own body, like it's the case of Zhang that sparked controversy in Wuhan, capital of Hubei Province. During a gynecological examination at the Wuhan Health Center for Women and Children. Zhang brought her son into the examination room, letting him see her body and telling him how a woman becomes pregnant and delivers. Zhang said she wanted to educate her son, a 14-year-old, correctly. Others, including doctors, said she should use better teaching methods. And I'm with the doctors on this own... I get that your son might see you naked at some point, of course, doors open, and we are not always dressed; but I don't think it was necessary for her to do that. It's too much sexual a thing for a kid... even if it didn't involved abuse.
Even grandmothers that have sex with their grandsons, like the case of a 72 year old grandmother Pearl Carter and her 26 year old grandson, Phil Bailey.
They met for the first time in 2006, because she had given his mother's up for adoption when she was 18, and they had a sexual spark. He found her attractive (I have no idea why) and vice-versa. She says that after the 3rd week of seeing her grandson she couldn't deny her attraction and called him into her bedroom, sat him down, and kissed him. Since then they became lovers and were looking for a surrogate to have a kid. What crazy woman would carry that kind of baby? Well, if they had offered me 54,000 bucks I believe I would have most likely said yes too. The difference of course, is that in this case they are consenting adults, so some might argue it's not abuse, but at some point I believe it's a kind of emotional abuse. Genetic Sexual Attraction might be there but it doesn't mean you have to act on it!
Then again, the porn industry has made millions on this kind of taboo. They exploit it to the core because as humans we are depraved by nature. Sex sells because everyone is interested in it, even if they would never say so. Sodomy, masochism, sadism, incest or any other kind of sexual taboo including masturbation that could be manufactured by the industry, any industry at that, is going to be exploit. And we know all this, and still we keep asking ourselves why....
Why? I have no idea.
Every one lives in their own world, have their own morality and each of us has an evil side full of dark fantasies and weird impulses, some just have better control over it than others.
But I ended up talking about something very different than what I initially set out to say. The main points are easy to make:
Freud and Lacan gave sexual development steps, which according to psychologist, if jumped can be trouble it seems.
Do not cheat on your wife, nothing good can come of it and if you don't believe me just watch Fatal Attraction.
And last but not least we all have a dark side... Some, darker than others.
*Note: The information on the Wests case came from Wikipedia.
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